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How to build self-confidence in a child

How to build self confidence in a child

How to build self-confidence in a child

Quite often, parents come to us asking how to build self-confidence in a child. For shy kids, finding confidence or courage might be about being able to put your hand up in class, sharing your ideas in a group, or trying a new activity.

Improved confidence allows children to make friends more easily, interact with teachers well and flourish at school. It also empowers them to want to make a difference in their world and add value to their community while opening doors to greater opportunities in life. 

Firstly, what is confidence? These Speak Up kids explain what confidence means to them.

How to help your shy child with confidence

So how do we build self-confidence in a shy child? Here are a few things we think you should try at home.

1. Tell them it’s ok to make mistakes

Making mistakes helps us learn. Try to show them that the learning is in the process and not in the result at the end. The act of getting up on stage could be their goal, rather than focussing only on remembering all their lines.

In our Speech ad Drama classes, students get used to making mistakes and we hope that this translates when they are up on stage as well. Nothing bad is going to happen if they twist their words up a little. They are having a go at something new, and that is brave.

Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, “I will try again tomorrow”. ~ Wizard of Oz

2. Tell them you know how brave they are

When kids are hesitant to get up on stage or feel worried that they aren’t ready, we can often see that they are as prepared as they will ever be. Sometimes a little “You’ll be fine”, or “Yes you can”, is enough for them to believe in themselves for just long enough to complete the task they are finding daunting. 

3. Share your experiences about confidence

Talk to them about a time when you felt nervous or scared and explain what you did to find courage. Tell them how it went, and what was the good that came out of it. It shouldn’t be about telling them how strong and brave you are, rather share your vulnerabilities and doubts you had in yourself. 

4. Encourage them to share their ideas in discussions at home

Show them how it’s ok to share their own ideas and challenge the ideas of others – if it’s done in a respectful way. Encourage discussions at home where they might voice a different opinion to yours. The world would be a boring place if we didn’t express our creative thoughts with others and ask questions. Helping your child build confidence at home is allowing them to practise in a safe place.

“Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak. Courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.  ~ Winston Churchill

 5. Let them know it’s ok to be different

The secret to building confidence is to embrace what makes us different and to share it with the world. Our world, unfortunately, teaches children to compare themselves to others, to try to fit in no matter what, and that different, is wrong. If we want to plant seeds of courage, self-esteem and confidence we must celebrate what makes us different and special. 

Speech and Drama is one of the most effective confidence-building activities for kids. Drama games and improvisation are fun activities that allow students to stand up in class and present themselves without the pressure and hype of a “performance.”

It’s important for us to provide a safe environment for students to challenge themselves without feeling embarrassed or afraid of making a mistake. When students work in an inclusive environment, they begin to feel comfortable taking risks and expressing their creativity. As a result, they are able to develop their creative problem-solving skills, learn to think on their feet, empathise with others and learn what it takes to succeed when working in groups. 

One of the most important tools in developing confidence is working on our communication skills, if children feel they can communicate well and get their message across, then they will be more confident in putting their ideas forward.

Find out more about our confidence-building activities for kids here.

If you think your child might have social anxiety, you can find out more here. https://www.ahaparenting.com/parenting-tools/social-intelligence/shyness